You are settling !
Don’t block your blessings sis.
Yes, like the men I mentioned above, you talk to anybody that talks to you.
You haven’t figured out what you want and so you haven’t set the standards that would facilitate you getting what you want. You are cool with Mr.Right Now, and you should know by now that losers love to oblige you with a good time. You are cool with the perpetual “just talking” stage. Not only are you cool with just talking, you are taking yourself off the market for men you’re just talking to! Wow that’s hustling backwards. You’ve set in place bad habits from the beginning. No commitment in place but now you are “hanging out” exclusively with a guy you’re “just talking to”. You’re just happy to be there and say you got somebody. So not only are you not clear on you want, now you are distracting yourself with what you don’t want and pretending it’s something you do.
please stop sacrificing your integrity, needs, and desires to please them & gain their approval. if you’re not okay with just hooking up, that’s perfectly valid. so don’t force it in hopes they’ll change their mind. it’s exhausting.
— 𝙖𝙜𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙫𝙤𝙘𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙪𝙧 (@sinfulpluto) May 19, 2020
Comments
Konnie
Great article with ‘real talk’ facts! Thank you for writing this.
Daniesha Johnson
I enjoyed reading this!
Marita
I’m glad you enjoyed it Daniesha! Be sure to sign up for updates!
Nonkululeko
One of the best articles I have read in a long time. I am truly in awe at such a sound, and articulate piece you have decided to share. I have decided to work fully on myself. Self love is a full time job ,from now on I will work on things people can’t take away from me, that is my character and personality.
Marita
I’m am happy it resonated! I truly believe it starts with getting clear on what you want and not compromising our big picture. I recommend snagging a few of the books I mentioned to help you on your journey!
Taylor
Look #4 hurt me to the core and I’ve been sitting on this one for awhile. I’ve always been okay with most of my close friend group being single (and the ones that aren’t being with men that don’t fit my personal standards) but as I’ve gotten older, I now understand how harmful that is to me and my journey. I like your book recommendations but how would you recommend finding/expanding to more like-minded friend groups as an adult?
Marita
It happens and a lot of times we don’t think about it. But it’s true, just like with most things, if you want something for yourself you need to get around people who have what you want. Surround yourself with likeminded people or people that can help you attract what you want. I’m not sure if there is a book that you need to read to know that you may want to expand your network of friends.
Taylor
My question is how do I expand my network to gain like-minded close friendships? I’ve found as an adult it gets harder to do.
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