You make excuses for men.
This is embarrassing because for some reason women believe men have it hard in life so they feel they need to make excuses for why the men they are involved with aren’t up to par.
I know we all like to act like men & women are the same but last I check men still make more than women do and have greater access to opportunities. Now whether men make the right choices is something only they can be accountable for.
The biggest way this mindset manifests is through cliches like “splitting bills” and women trying to use their careers as tools to attract men. It attracts men alright but not the men who are going to make you feel like the natural woman Aretha was talking about. Actually, you’re gonna find yourself in the mother role where you are the provider.
Let me tell you, most men resent women who stay with them when they are losers. God forbid you’re with an apathetic man. He thinks he’s hit the jackpot because he doesn’t have to level up and you got everything. You’re his workhorse, you hold him down, GO YOU! SIKE!
Now let me ask you, when you dreamed about your husband/partner did you dream about being the man in the relationship?
Comments
Konnie
Great article with ‘real talk’ facts! Thank you for writing this.
Daniesha Johnson
I enjoyed reading this!
Marita
I’m glad you enjoyed it Daniesha! Be sure to sign up for updates!
Nonkululeko
One of the best articles I have read in a long time. I am truly in awe at such a sound, and articulate piece you have decided to share. I have decided to work fully on myself. Self love is a full time job ,from now on I will work on things people can’t take away from me, that is my character and personality.
Marita
I’m am happy it resonated! I truly believe it starts with getting clear on what you want and not compromising our big picture. I recommend snagging a few of the books I mentioned to help you on your journey!
Taylor
Look #4 hurt me to the core and I’ve been sitting on this one for awhile. I’ve always been okay with most of my close friend group being single (and the ones that aren’t being with men that don’t fit my personal standards) but as I’ve gotten older, I now understand how harmful that is to me and my journey. I like your book recommendations but how would you recommend finding/expanding to more like-minded friend groups as an adult?
Marita
It happens and a lot of times we don’t think about it. But it’s true, just like with most things, if you want something for yourself you need to get around people who have what you want. Surround yourself with likeminded people or people that can help you attract what you want. I’m not sure if there is a book that you need to read to know that you may want to expand your network of friends.
Taylor
My question is how do I expand my network to gain like-minded close friendships? I’ve found as an adult it gets harder to do.
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