You aren’t putting yourself in the right environments.
This is where have friends who share your values come in. For example, your friend who has the same relationship values (desire family oriented loyal men) can introduce you to the friends of her man(who is also a family oriented loyal man). Generally his friends reflect the same values.
Another reason why you may not have a man is because you are picking up men in the trashiest of places. I think bars and clubs are the worst because you can’t have a real conversation and it’s just dangerous all around. The music is loud and chances are the way you guys met was from your bum twerking on his pelvis to a fun song. Next thing you know you’re giving your number to this stranger you still have yet to have a real conversation with….. and then he simply texts you and asks very generically “what do you like to do for fun?”
If you want a quality man, you need to put yourself in the environments where the type of men you want go and dress the part, if you want a business man go to the happy hour spots where the men in the business district of town go for work drinks. Having a hobby that a lot of men enjoy may help too.
If you want to know the places to frequent to meet good men, you need to sign up to pre-order my ebook!
If you want the good man that’s gonna handle the household and make you feel like a woman, you will have to be deliberate and cutthroat.
Women who end up with the providers do not compromise on their requirements. It’s like they have a recipe for a cake they want to make but unless they have all the ingredients they won’t even attempt to make it work. They also don’t say “Hey I got the ingredients except sugar so I’ll make pancakes instead”. They know their femininity is their asset to use and they know real masculine men prefer feminine women they can protect. If this resonated with you, leave a comment! Also, if you want the tips on how to find good men, topics about strategic dating, you definitely need to sign up for my newsletter.
xo Marita
Comments
Konnie
Great article with ‘real talk’ facts! Thank you for writing this.
Daniesha Johnson
I enjoyed reading this!
Marita
I’m glad you enjoyed it Daniesha! Be sure to sign up for updates!
Nonkululeko
One of the best articles I have read in a long time. I am truly in awe at such a sound, and articulate piece you have decided to share. I have decided to work fully on myself. Self love is a full time job ,from now on I will work on things people can’t take away from me, that is my character and personality.
Marita
I’m am happy it resonated! I truly believe it starts with getting clear on what you want and not compromising our big picture. I recommend snagging a few of the books I mentioned to help you on your journey!
Taylor
Look #4 hurt me to the core and I’ve been sitting on this one for awhile. I’ve always been okay with most of my close friend group being single (and the ones that aren’t being with men that don’t fit my personal standards) but as I’ve gotten older, I now understand how harmful that is to me and my journey. I like your book recommendations but how would you recommend finding/expanding to more like-minded friend groups as an adult?
Marita
It happens and a lot of times we don’t think about it. But it’s true, just like with most things, if you want something for yourself you need to get around people who have what you want. Surround yourself with likeminded people or people that can help you attract what you want. I’m not sure if there is a book that you need to read to know that you may want to expand your network of friends.
Taylor
My question is how do I expand my network to gain like-minded close friendships? I’ve found as an adult it gets harder to do.
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